It is more like an inner reflection than a story. . .

After a long time, she was single again. In a foreign country, where they spoke a language she could not understand, she decided to close a chapter in her life and start a new one. Alone. It took her a while to take this decision, but finally, she decided it was time to finish it. If it was the right time, if it was too late or too early, is an open discussion because everyone will have a different opinion about it. For her, it was the right moment, the right place, and the right way to do it.

Maybe you think your life is over or makes no sense anymore because all you once knew is gone now, all you have built does not exist anymore, the person you had next to you is not there any longer.

Maybe you think you will not be able to continue, everything has fallen apart in front of your eyes, your plans, desires, hopes, dreams, and the whole life you got so used to.

Maybe you will think this means the end for you also, because you are now alone, and you feel lost. But it depends only on you how you decide to write your next story.

For some people can be terrifying, but for others can represent freedom, it can symbolize a new beginning, the beginning of a new chapter.

But why these things happen so often still? Why it is so difficult sometimes to give up to something or to someone we knew for so long? Why are we so afraid of the unknown, of loneliness? Why we immediately associate it with something negative?

Why are we so afraid to go out of our comfort zone and to explore new situations, to see new places, and to meet new people? If we do not enlarge our comfort zone and go out of, we will get stuck in the same place, with the same people and the same situations.

It does not mean that we should search to replace the people we have in our life, but if we do not explore, we will not discover more than we already know. If we are not open to travel, to open our minds, to experience new situations than we will not progress in any way. In each stage of our life, baby to kid, kid to teenager, teenager to adult, adult to elder, we have different people next to us, but this does not mean that all of them will remain forever during our entire life.

They all come with a reason and leave also for a reason, and all of them will teach you something, in a way or another.

I am just wondering if the relationships can be truly genuine. Do we love a person because we really love that person or because of the necessity of needing to love someone?

Is it really love what keeps people together or is just simply the comfort a person feels knowing that they are not alone?

Knowing that they can share their worries, knowing they can share the bills, knowing they will share the tickets for the holidays, that they will not go alone on holiday, knowing they will split the duties at home, the cleaning, the cooking, and all this is a comforting feeling.

Why there still so many unhappy couples that see their partner as a friend only, but still, they will not end that relationship? They already feel that the spark and the attraction are gone but they will continue to pretend. They will pretend first to themselves, and then to their partner, and later on to their families and friends.

Why some people choose to be in a toxic relationship rather than being alone? Why are we so afraid of loneliness? Why do we hesitate to do stuff alone? Why do we need to think twice about going out and having a coffee just by ourselves?

If we, as individuals, can’t be happy by ourselves, then how we will be able to make another person happy? How we can give the best of us if we are not aware of what is the best of us if we do not know ourselves? How can we, if we do not even know what makes us happy and what makes us unhappy?

Life is a mirror; it reflects the way you look into it. You look into it with fear, it will reflect fear, you look int it with anger and insecurities, it will reflect the same feelings.

Why some people prefer to cheat rather than find the courage to sit down, have a talk, and see if there is something you can solve or recover, to see if there is any future left together, and if not, to be brave enough to admit that it’s over now?

Why?

Is it really because we do not want to hurt the other person or is it just because we are being selfish?

Is it maybe because we are not happy with the job, but at least we have someone to listen to our problems?

Is it because we are not happy with our body, but at least we have someone that loves us the way we are and got used to us?

Is it because we have a conflict with a familiar, but at least we have someone that we chose to be as part of our family?

Is it because we do not have so many friends or not an active social life, but at least we have someone we can go out with and have a drink whenever we feel like?

Is it because we are afraid of what the other people might and will say, but at least we have someone that will agree with us most of the time?

People will talk, it does no matter what you will decide to do with your life. And if they talk, it means they care, so let them talk!

Why is so difficult to be honest with ourselves? If we cannot be sincere and decide what is best for us, who will do it? No one!

In the best scenario, the friends will be there to support you and your family also. And this is everything you need in life, the support of the people you most love, it does not matter how crazy your ideas, dreams or decisions might sound. They will be there to support and not to criticize.

But do not dare to leave the key of your happiness in someone’s else pocket. You are responsible for your decisions; you should deal with the consequences of your acts and you should always, no matter what, take the decisions you think that might make you happy.

You cannot rely on life, or on people, to give you what you think life owes you. If you are doing that, have a seat and enjoy the waiting. It will take a long time and life will pass by.

Go out there in the unknown, search, experience, close chapters, open chapters, and live life in a way you think might make you happy.

Happiness symbolize moments in life. Moments you share with the people you love, in the places you like, doing the things which give you pleasure and a feeling of inner peace, and those things that will bring a smile on your face.

In my opinion, this is everything we need in life!

Version in Spanish: https://journeywithmada.com/historia-nr-5/

Version in Romanian: https://journeywithmada.com/povestea-nr-5/